perna always has good advice! i know that, personally for me, attraction to a person has very litle to do with physical appearance. if i meet someone who might be averge, might be exremely good looking, but i get to know them they can become ugly to me. and vise versa. so i also think that the rebuiding of intamacy and feelings need to be brought back before sex can.

Also, women tend to relate sex to emotions a little more than men do. so her not being ready might mean that she's afraid of putting herself out there and being vulnerable again and going though that hurt again.