Echoes, i just try to remind myself that the original parental-infant bond was ALSO quite erotic. It was supposed to be our first love affair. Actually thats a quote from one of the freud books or somebody in a letter or conversation with someone - my memory is not improving with age! - where the t says, "so what are we supposed to do? Just let them fall in love with us?" And i think freud replies bingo.

I see it as retroactively placing the structural brain beam that either was too weak, or never put up to begin with. Only this time, the This Old House guys are putting one in that goes across the old kitchen AND the new living space, and is 3 beams thick and at least twice as long. And isnt wood, its steel.