Posting on this helps you blow off steam I feel. Plus you get some good advice and help from others who have been through it.

When I was married back in 1983, my life was very lazy. She never
cooked, or did house work. She laid around and did her nails, and
pampered herself alot. She did do some laundry.

I don't know how old she is but sounds like something is defintely bothering her. You helped out when you worked and
put her through school. So she should appreciate that. Our you
still in love with her and her with you???

Maybe these are questions you have to ask your self. Get her to
go to a therapist and talk with someone. Go with her if you think
it would help???

But I'm definetly not laughing at you. Actually I went through
it once myself. I then found out she wasn't satisfied being married anymore so try to get to the heart of the matter instead
of putting yourself through HELL....Everyday!

Goodluck
Frozen.......take care....