My concern about what you shared is how you wondered if YOU did something wrong. Truth is, some people are hard to get to know and develop a relationship with. Each person you come across will have their own history and some have challenging histories that have left them insecure when it comes to developing relationships with others. You may wonder if there is something wrong with you when someone steps away, however often it is more about how the other person is afraid to go any further because they don't know HOW.

This relationship forum is the most active of all the forums on this site, a close second is the depression forum. This relationship forum is full of threads asking "how do I deal with this and that?". It's actually proof of how so many people, including yourself simply don't "know how" in so many aspects of having a healthy relationship with another individual. I will say though, when you come across someone who is uncomfortable talking on the phone, often this is so because the individual doesn't know HOW and gets very uncomfortable when it comes to having conversations. I remember my daughter having this problem when she was younger with a young boy who called her and would not talk. My suggestion to her was that before she talked to him to sit down and come up with a list of questions she could ask him, things SHE could talk about to help him slowly get more comfortable about talking to her. So, she did just what I suggested and this young man NEVER forgot her for that because she was the first person he began to feel more comfortable with when it came to sitting and talking on the phone. This young man's parents were divorced, he lived with his father who was always busy so he did not really have anyone take an interest in him, spend time with him and sit and TALK to him, nor did he get to see two people "his parents" sit and talk to each other in a healthy way either. Not to mention that when it comes to "boys" they tend to have a harder time when it comes to using language too when they are little and they are ususally more physically active first.

As far as "am I drawn to these kind of males?", that's a good question as often females are drawn to something that is "familiar" unknowingly, like males that are similar to their father. It's actually "natural" to be drawn to things that are familiar so it's good to pay attention to this in that familiar may not be the safest or wisest choice.