((WovenGalaxy)), it's really OK to sit and review an experience and recognize one's own lack of skills to handle whatever challenged them and did not end well. Each person has to LEARN when it comes to relationships and we actually do this our entire lives. Just about every person that is older will say "Wish I knew then what I know now". Pretty much every human being has skeletons in their closet too. So whenever you encounter a person you are just seeing the part of them that fashioned a protective coat as a way of self protecting. Some people have figured out how to APPEAR OR SEEM nice when they have a whole other side to them you don't get to experience or see right away and that part can prove to be more than you care to deal with or know how to deal with.

I am sorry that you experienced someone that hurt you in some way and you are just trying to venture out once again to try again. You know, being hurt doesn't always mean that we are rejected because we are simply "not good enough" either. Unfortunately, the way our overall education system is set up tends to imprint us with an ongoing message of if you don't get everything right, you are not "good enough". Truth is, a person can get everything right on some test and be good at memorizing, yet, be lousy at a lot of other important things. Truth is, each person we encounter is yet another encounter to learn something from and you are simply NEVER going to know how to respond to everyone that presents you with some new unknown challenge.

When someone distances or they suddenly break a relationship off with you, it's not always YOUR fault. Often it's more in that this other person doesn't want to invest the time it takes to build a healthy relationship. This can happen for reasons that genuinely have nothing to do with you at all, but their own inability to go any farther then they have gone with you and these indivdiuals often don't really go any further with "anyone" either due to lack of knowledge and ability or "know how".