With Former T I was quite fortunate because I felt connection with her a lot of the time and I could keep that feeling for at least a couple of days. I saw her weekly so that helped too. I don't know what it was that helped me feel that connection. Maybe just her warmth and general positive regard towards me. I also felt like she was very real with me a lot of the time. With Current T and Pastor T I haven't felt that connection. Maybe once with current T when she said she finally thought she was "getting me" but alas not since then. I also don't know if I want to feel connected with current T. I don't want to have that awful feeling when I'm not connected so maybe I am a bit shut down.