I guess I chose my therapists because the connection was solid and comfortable. Beyond that, however, I don't think I gave the connection much thought. It was established and I felt secure in that connection, so it wasn't something I questioned or sought out beyond being sure it existed initially.

I think once a person has experienced what a secure connection is, it just becomes something understood and trusted. It isn't a constant intense feeling all the time and you don't even really need that intensity, but rather, it is a relationship that simply feels secure and safe.

It's kind of like the difference between the intensity of falling in love (that all-encompassing, constant flood of feeling) and being in a long-term love relationship where you simply have that mature love that trusts and is consistent. (And no, I'm not saying therapy is like Love; just using an analogy).