My T has cards for what I am needing in session each time. Connection is one of the options. Picking that card let’s him know that he needs to be a little more attentive to me and not do anything that challenges rapport. For the most part I feel connected with T no matter what and I do think it is the “magic” piece that makes the difference between him and previous, useless, T’s. If at the end of session I am not feeling connected and I am brave enough to tell him he will hold me for a minute or two or we can do an extra long hug.