About gift giving-
Some T’s accept gifts (I’ve learned) and some don’t.
I’m glad you didn’t give him the opportunity to refuse it.

Brought a gift to an outpatient Christmas gathering/party as part of this hospital’s aftercare program. I wanted to give it to the T I’d had as an inpatient.

He refused to accept the gift. I think he explained he didn’t accept gifts from clients. It was a gift I had put some thought into and I thought it would make him laugh. So I said, ‘ok, don’t accept the gift but would you open it?’ He said , ‘No.’

I was upset (being very new to therapy, never expecting this would happen). Then he said something like, ‘Just pretend I died.’ In front of everyone...at a Christmas gathering! I was pretty angry about it. Devastated.