I usually like to feel a connection with people, it can be very pleasant and energizing for me. The nature of the connection can vary a lot though. With my last T, it was mostly about feeling we had a lot in common, and that tends to be a general pattern for me, how I often connect with some people. I didn't really feel a connection with the first T and in the end it was pretty repulsive... we had very little or maybe nothing in common and he constantly misinterpreted me. With the second, I enjoyed what felt like a connection a lot and sometimes I emailed him just because I wanted an extra dose of it. I don't know if these things have anything to do with my parents - if I had to compare, maybe with first T it was like with my mom (very little in common, not much connection) and with second T a bit like my dad (we had a lot in common and felt a strong, quite unique connection most of my life). But I didn't see (or wanted to see) my Ts as parental figures.