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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Hey @bpcyclist, I see what your point is but do not totally agree. I know what you mean by someone who changes with the wind, an opportunist. I see this as a negative but I do think being closer to certain people changes the way our jokes are between each other and personal experiences matter.
I am an alcoholic in recovery and work with other alcoholic addicts. Amongst us all we may make jokes about our past substance use or being a drunk and its fine. We both shared that experience and commisterate over it. I have gay friends that make jokes that are offensive if anyone else said them but between them its ok and I think this is because of a shared experience. I think some people have lower tolerances for people at different times. I have one friend who is so scattered and all over the place that I need to prepare when I socialize with her. I adore her and she is a good friend but a lot to take. I do not think this makes me a manipulator or someone looking to be in power or control. Do you see what I mean? Am I misunderstanding you or are we sort of on the same plane?
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Yeah I agree with you. Everyone is like that. In terms of the whole friend thing you mentioned, I'm the same way with my friend. She has ADHD and can be extremely hyper. Not only that but she is so forgetful and scattered brained that she could easily come off as flaky and not giving a crap. I've learned to know the difference. And yes, I am more tolerant of her behaviors because I know that part of it is due to her ADHD so some of the stuff she does I usually let it go more so than if someone else who does not have the same issues and had no reason to be extremely forgetful and scatter brained acted like her as well. So yeah, it all depends.