Do you have a therapist? If not then I suggest that you get one ASAP.
I also suggest going into couples counseling.
AA is not for everyone but the principals are good.....I suggest going a few times there are many different meetings. I went to a meditation one which was good. also went to an atheist meeting...not for me.
There is an on line meeting place called smart recovery. They have on line meetings.
There are a bunch of books that you can read. I am reading on called this naked mind. I like it.
I wish you much luck in this journey.
bizi