I’m sorry about your brother.. my brother really got busy with his own life and kids it was almost impossible to get him to come for a family dinner or birthdays.

For a month she just kept calling him and asking him to please please please come she was was going to cook his favorite meal and dessert , he had many excuses work, kids sports events Etc etc ...

Well he finally agreed to come on a Sunday... she was so happy, I was happy I hadn’t seen him in months. Well my mom died in her sleep on the Thursday before, she was only 66 and in good health very active.

He has to live with that guilt the rest of his life.

Men are different when it comes to relationships with parents and even siblings. My T has to remind me about that when I get angry at my husbands Sons for not actively make time to spend with him. One day they too will have regret to live with.

Hopefully you can have a conversation with him and it be positive