Its true ,I have or am trying to forgive my adult children from my perspective on how they treat me. I do not like it at all,So I have been blaming them for my depression i wonder..I am starting to enjoy this site it sure makes you think,and hopefully in a truly positive way. Through understanding and respect maybe the only way..or is it too much to ask from certain people. Because they have their own "demons" or learning curves to where they are either learning faster or not about the fallacies of our natures. Being Human and trying to figure out how allow forgiveness of yourself more than forgiveness of others. When people will not forgive you and you love them..many of us goes to a place of This is wrong with me that is wrong with me..maybe there is too much.Blaming ourselves for either too much or not enough...or is it liken to narcissism ?