I'm afraid I must agree with ALL the other wise, wonderful posters that this doesn't seem lile the healthiest thing to do in a Relationship. If I've had a Partner, I'd prefer to just talk to him/her about ALL of this and see how it goes from there! Punishments are rarely REALLY useful in my opinion and you may gain better results by just talking things through with your Partner! If, after you've done ALL the talking, things still don't change, you may want to consider ending the Relationship right there. You need tot hink about yourself as well! At the very least, offer Him/Her to do some Couple Counseling. Hopefully He/She will Accept that at least! Keep us updated and let us know how it goes, ok? Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Gymgirl71, your Family, your Friends, your Partner, your Doctors, your Therapists, your Nurses, your Relatives, your Classmates, your Teachers and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?