I, too, worked as a server...I used to tell customers upfront I didn't have time to talk. I also felt such pressure to get the order right, of a demanding customer, to the point of having nightmares of not being able to satisfy my customers. I eventually got out of the serving business, and into the child care field...it's much more deeply rewarding! I still feel drained at the end of a long day, but it's a 'deeply contented..' drained. I don't know if this is the answer for you. What is your dream job? What would fulfill you?