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Old Oct 28, 2019, 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Lilwren View Post
Oh geez louise! lol sorry to laugh, but my sister is an alcoholic and she says things like that occasionally ... OVER MY DEAD BODY. WHY can't these people just be normal!? All I ever wanted was to live a normal life with normal family, husband and friends. It seems to be impossible. I'm not asking for the moon ... just normal ... even keeled ... sensible people around me. I haven't had normal in so long I feel crazy. But addicts don't do anything that makes sense. I get so frazzled trying to make sense of it most days. I have gone no contact with my sister, but can't do that with my husband.

Nice guys finish last ... maybe that's why they dump on us ... because we're the nice ones? They've burned all their other bridges and we're all they have left. Dammit we deserve better!

I just read a book called Don't Let Your Kids Kill You: A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children and it applies to pretty much any situation with an addict. It's heartbreaking what they do. Learning about it doesn't make it hurt less though. I keep trying to find solace in someone's writing. I guess it's a long journey. Boundaries for sure though! Even that's hard when you're just learning like me.
@Lilwren

I'm so sorry you struggle with that. Boundaries are definitely necessary in such cases. (((safe hugs)))

My father was an alcoholic, and it was really hard for us growing up. I cannot imagine what it must feel like to have children with addiction problems.