I wouldn’t know if your mom has a disorder. But if you see signs there’s something wrong with her, you are certainly dealing with a difficult situation.

I did a lot of analyzing and soul searching in my family issues. At this point I keep a little close but with a safe distance. I control myself so I don’t instigate or make things worse.

You can’t do anything to change anyone else. If you point out your mom’s flaws, she probably won’t even want to hear it.

I feel for you and hope it’s not too toxic.