I suspect that both those people who said that were actually ''just unhappy and miserable people'' themselves, otherwise why would they make such a low blow, in no way is that ''helpful''
Just because their comment was simple, and ugly, it doesn't make it true. Maybe they were frustrated... feeling unable to ''help'' ...that still doesn't excuse such a mindless, inane and hurtful comment. Those people were supposed to ''care'' .. they weren't just some random idiot..
It does hurt if it was someone who was respected... obviously (to me) they didn't deserve your respect.
It really isn't as simple as they attempted to make out.
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
They were both honestly telling me what they thought to be true, in order to “help” me... that I was just an ‘unhappy and miserable’ person, no matter what I do.
Those comments registered in my mind during both conversation, but repeated on me once alone and festered. Have you ever had an argument with someone, where, once it’s over you think of some zinger of a retort that you wish you had said in the moment? It felt like that.
But there was no zinger I could have thrown at them because they cut me to my core by craftily saying I was well... just broken. 
Also, they were people whose opinions I respected. Why would a friend or a doctor make such a low blow? Therefore, it must just be the simple truth.  Kinda sends you reeling. 
I don’t consider myself an unhappy and miserable person. I consider that circumstances have made me feel that way. These people said that it wasn’t the circumstances, rather it was JUST ME.  |