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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I think it really depends. No one is required to walk up to people and interject themselves into a conversation. To me that’s kind of insulting if you involve yourself in conversations with people when they are having one and you don’t know them. I suppose that could be looked at differently If you are at like a work party and you need to project that team player look. But there is a way to look available with your body language. I’m very very social. Everyone I meet I usually ask their name. I like asking my local cashier where something is if I can’t find it. I like addressing people by name. But if I’m in a situation where I may only know one person or it’s just my husband and I’m standing on the perimeter of a group I’m not going to butt in. But in situation where I’m at like my husbands Xmas party I’ll try and talk to people while getting food or eating at communal tables. He’s extremely shy and if his party wasn’t like a fancy night out for us he wouldn’t go. He uses me as his buffer. When some big wig who doesn’t even work with my husband comes around to shmoooze with the peons, he likes me there because I’ll do that talking and it will sound good and he will look good. (he works at an Ivy League university and does teledata installation so he feels out of place when these professors attempt to mingle. )
My one friend is a playwright, director and professor of theater in NYC and brought me as a guest to some premier party and I’m standing around meeting people like Fran drecher, Kim cattral, Laura tierney, all these famous people and I’m meeting them. That is when I was very intimidated. I didn’t want to look star struck and you don’t ask for autographs at these things. I just kept a low profile and made nice. I was totally tuned in and in observation mode. I think some of these issues might have to do with feeling inferior or intimidated.
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Totally agree. Yes most people do not like it when someone they don’t know interjects themselves into a conversation that is taking place and they don’t know them. It can be seen as rude and intrusive. The only exception is if the group members invited someone new into the conversation and asked questions. Then that’s okay. And yeah in terms of work related topics, it is more acceptable if it is a work related discussion. In fact, it is somewhat expected in some cases. But other than that, it’s not a good idea to interject. That’s good you’re able to help out, I’m very shy myself too so being with someone else helps.