You know what, it sounds like you and your friend are introverts and there is absolutely nothing at all wrong with that. Introverts do tend to listen and notice more. Introverts also tend to seek a deeper level of conversation with others. Introverts usually don’t care for small talk. There are many books you can read about introverts if you enjoy reading. Or maybe you can find some YouTube videos on the subject. Maybe you will find that you can appreciate the qualities of being an introvert plus also seek out other introverts. It’s good if we can love and accept ourselves as we are. I’m sure trying at least but it isn’t easy, I do know that.