Hello I love my husband: Welcome to Psych Central. Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see you also posted this in the Addictions forum where you've received 2 replies so far. However I thought I would write my reply here.

One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the Relationships & Communication forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/

And then here's a link to an article, from Psych Central's archives, that discusses the experience of finding your partner using porn or cybersex:

What If You Find Your Partner Using Porn or Cybersex? | Healing Together for Couples

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.