Yes, but I do not feel comfortable bringing this up to my therapist. Specifically, I do not want to bring up his Sexting/sex cam chat habits and the details of his trauma. We live in a small town. We have had numerous intense stressors recently, so I am going to bring up my own overwhelm/despondent feelings, but no details of my husband’s behavior/disclosures. At least, not yet. I decided to go through “better help” and I scheduled a video session for marriage counseling for both of us.

He sees it more as “interactive porn”. We have been talking about the connection between his intense grief and recent losses, past childhood trauma and PTSD, and how it connects with addictive behaviors such as drinking, smoking and, now apparently, Sexting. He said he never even thought about how much this could possibly hurt me, and he feels horrible about He said he never even thought about how much this could possibly hurt me, and he feels horrible about the whole thing.

I have expressed to him how this is bringing up my past trauma and codependent tendencies. He has allowed me to put a parental control on his phone, but that’s not going to change how his mind defaults.

It’s a very hard situation, I want to honor his process and privacy, but be true to myself.

At least we are not Fighting.