Yes, that happens a lot. There often is no ryhme, nor reason. I think many know my H has a dx of BP2 and it was a "toss" as to whether or not his dx was/is BP1, as he did experience some psychosis. During the psychosis, I was his target. The things he was accusing me of ... just held no truth. Due to my background, I was able to see it for what it was. thankfully.

I think spouses/others become "targets" just because they are there.

In short, my father was ill and was chronically a terror.
I do experience "night terrors" and have extreme "sleep anxiety," PTSD.
I tend to think your children will be okay.

First of all, my dad was a "chronic" terror.

Secondly, children suffer when there is no adult/nobody available to comfort them. (I had nobody to help me with that. I might not have been so traumatized if an adult was available to me emotionally. I could never process any of it with any adult. The only adult around was too traumatized.)

It is not necessarily the "traumatic event(s)" which create PTSD. It is critically important someone is available to "comfort" the child at the time and thereafter, allowing the child to proces thier experience(s).

You deeply love your children and are doing everything right and everything possible to help them to process their experiences. You are Present for them and helping them to heal, on every level. (This is relatively rare.) This is cause for celebration!

You are making a tremendous effort and are doing an amazing job!

WIth Much Love and Admiration, my friend
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