Pink, the age difference involved is significant enough that I believe that he was taking advantage of you. My oldest son is 12 and if he were to do that to a 7 or 8 year old I would have no doubt that he knew what he was doing. As a parent I also know that a 7 or 8 year old is likely to do whatever an older kid wants. In short, it was wrong.

But what does that mean? Well, you probably didn't process the event very well at the time and exploring it now doesn't hurt anything. At the very least, you deserve to not feel bothered by it.

Alexandra's point about defining yourself as a victim is an important cautionary point. I would try to avoid seeing yourself as permanently scarred by this event but instead I'd focus on what feelings you have and how to best deal with them.

I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm glad you're talking to a therapist about it.

Cyran0