Is it a turn off if a man in his mid forties is still partying? I reflected on my last relationship…my ex rationalized his behavior all the time…then he would have an epiphany temporarily saying he needs to live a healthier life and he is going to have to stop hanging around certain people bla bla. Its why our relationship didn’t work out. If you cant give up your party friends, then don’t expect any woman your age to stick around. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind letting loose once in a while..i am talking once a month or 2 months…He would set all these life goals and things he wanted to do also, so it’s why I stuck around so long. But then one of his boys would come around and want to him to go to an event with him or something and that would be that. Even if no event, his friends would have to come over and hang and drink etc..I always felt like I was on the backburner. As soon as he started hanging with these friends again, it seemed to me he no longer cared about a relationship. If a guy likes being single so much, I am going to give him what he wants. I have higher standards, where I think there is a time to grow up. I definitely don’t want someone who always has to be hanging with friends all the time. I get you need boys nights, but it was way too frequent, and as far as I am concerned, if he is into me he will want to see me often.