Razzleberry

I have women friends in real life, but I'm homebound and disabled and they are very busy with their lives. I have found it beneficial to have women friends online. It takes the pressure off my husband, even though he's pretty good at dealing with "female emotions" (he tries very hard to understand).

All in all, I don't think men are wired to understand the turmoil of our female brains/bodies. I also don't think women are wired to understand the turmoil that go on inside male brains/bodies. However, I'm amazed at the compassion and understanding I've seen in homosexuals. I used to spend hours on the phone with a male friend of mine - talking about men. He was a very nice "girlfriend" when I needed a sounding board. But, husbands don't make very nice "girlfriends."

It helps to get things off my chest with other women. Sometimes they give me good advice, sometimes they reassure me that I'm not alone, and sometimes they smack me upside the head, lol. The input from others gives me a better understanding of my problem. They don't seem to mind talking about these things. As a result, I don't appear so "needy" to my husband. We can focus more on our life together and the things he IS able to discuss and fix in my life.

My husband and I have an agreement. If he sees me sulking or upset in any way about something on my mind, he'll ask: "Is it something I did or does it have to do with me?" Most times it doesn't concern him, so it lets him off the hook. If it does have to do with him, he's not so quick to blow it off as a "woman thing" (relating to hormones and emotion) or blame it on me.

I hope this post helps you to "exhale." (Whitney Houston reference)