Well, I think the answer is that you are going to have to accept a certain amount of anger at the moment. It's not going to just melt away because he's sorry. Trust has been damaged. Rebuilding that is necessarily going to take time. There is not something wrong with you because you are angry. It;s a normal and appropriate reaction to the situation. I personally wouldn't try to compartmentalize it, even if I could. I would say, just be with it. Be with yourself. Acknowledge the anger and hurt at the situation and accept that it is a perfectly normal response. It's just where you are.

I would be careful wanting to know more and more and more. That can become its own kind of torture for you. And in my experience having been cheated upon, it doesn't actually really make you feel any better. I wanted to know every last detail and it just made it worse--much worse. What matters most is, is he truly remorseful? Is he committed to stopping this behavior? Will he participate in whatever therapy you guys deem appropriate? And does he get that, should he persist in this conduct, you will be gone? I am assuming that is how you feel--maybe you don't. Anyway, that is my two cents. Sending you positive vibes. Whatever happens, don't forget that there is nothing weird or wrong with your reaction and experience. Mine was exactly the same, pretty much. It sucks, but it won't suck forever.