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Nov 02, 2019, 01:28 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2019
Location: Europe
Posts: 23
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Originally Posted by Lilly2
It's hard to tell what exactly you're going through,
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I'm just interested in knowing what people think of this.
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Are you in a vocational rehabilitation program? Who are these people who are helping you find work? Are those people from a program, or are they your friends? Are they your coworkers?
It would help to know the answers to the above, in order to follow what you're saying.
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It's their job to help people with finding suitable work, that's why I trusted the first person at first.
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Sometimes we receive harsh critiques, but it isn't meant to hurt us.
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I have no problem with criticism as far as I know, it's not something that would "hurt" me, even if it's "harsh". That doesn't mean that abusive behavior wouln't effect me though, same as it has on others.
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If our communication needs improvement, they should be offering you advice on how to improve your communication for the job tasks at hand.
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The explanations about the communication of the person in charge was about the first person that was supposed to support me, I probable got the "blame" for things going wrong.
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It's hard to make a judgment on the other people without knowing specific phrases in quotation marks, such as, Person A said, "You communicate poorly! You shouldn't be working here." --That's just a hypothetical example, not what I heard or read.
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I wrote a few things that were said as example, other than that, you can see it as, what do you think of this behavior based on these descriptions?
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It is also hard when people "infantilize" you, or treat you like a child. Instead, they should respect where you're at, given your limitations with disabilities and otherwise. It's okay to have limitations; we all have limitations! For example, a person in a wheelchair cannot apply for police work, but that same person can go to school to become a lawyer! That person's limitations would include mobility, or the inability to walk, run, move fast, or utilize certain chairs. In the same way, those with mental disabilities and intellectual disabilities may have a difficult time conentrating, communicating, relating to others, picking up on social cues, acting in a professional manner, being alert and attentive at certain things, etc. It doesn't mean those limitations prevent you from working, but it may mean that those limitations may not work best with certain tasks at the moment, even though you could improve through being trained, mentored, eduated, or offered therapeutic tools for interpersonal effectiveness (e.g., DBT and/or CBT therapies). Emotion regulation is also an important aspect of working relationships.
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This happened without this person knowing anything about me, so this may say something about how this person treats people in general.
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One way to resolve this would be to simply ask, "What can I do to improve this situation?" If those people give you some answers and tips, then you can work on those. If those people only give you negatives, meaning that they tell you that you cannot improve, then they aren't helpful to you. Still, you can follow through with a simple question like, "Why do you believe that?" See what they say. And without getting defensive, just thank them for their time and take a day or a week to figure out what could be an appropriate response. That's one scenario.
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The contact wasn't even close to good enough to have this type of communication.
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Another solution could be to find another job, and find different supports to help you find another job. You can still work where you are at, but try to find another job before you quit your current one.
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I'm actually trying to get a better understanding of this situation, which can help me with my decisions.
Thanks for the reply though.
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