Thanks, Rhap. . .Thanks, Cyrano. . .I don't get how people just decide what other people are sexually. . .it's such a personal, private, and complex issue for everyone--who has the right to judge? You went through it, I go through it, and now I fear my nephew is going to go through it

You're always so honest, Cyrano. I'm sorry for the violence you experienced. . .

I don't know what came first--my severe self-consciousness and worrying about what others are thinking of me, or the judgemental comments and questions I've gotten over the years. I know I can't control what others think, and I know intellectually I shouldn't let it bother me anyway, cbt and all that. . .but I do worry about it almost constantly when out in public. Running into the 7/11 for a coke and passing other customers and dealing with the clerk. . .grocery shopping. . .passing others on the street in my car. . .meeting new coworkers (what's he thinking of me?) It never ends. . .