I understand, but from the other end. I was the one who put my mother through the frustration and anger in my teen years. She fought very hard to keep me under control. At the time, I didn't understand how my problem was affecting her, but when I look back and talk to her about the past, her frustration and anger at the situation are so very clear. Luckily, the hardships we went through have strengthened our bond. If your mother is not currently on medications and seeing a therapist, I would highly recommend that you help her to see one. I think it will work wonders. I can't say for sure because I am just starting my own therapy and meds. Good luck to you and your mother.