You are all so sweet.

I’m almost 49 and never wanted to be married, for many reasons.

Then I met my husband. I’ve never felt so safe in love. Until now. I feel so broken and just want that safe feeling back.

At least his perspective is shifting. He just wanted to “move on” initially. Now he’s starting to accept that I’m going through my own process and that he needs to honor that.

Initially he kept insisting that it was like an interactive video game/interactive porn. He is just now acknowledging that it is so much more than that. It’s been a week now. He admitted last night that he’s understanding that he violated our intimate connection and it will take time to heal.

He has a counseling appt tomorrow & we have our first marriage counseling appt tomorrow as well. The irony that we’re doing video therapy for his video cheating isn’t lost on me.

Again, at least we aren’t fighting.

And I made it through yesterday without taking Xanax.

Your input is priceless.