I would suggest you find a Therapist to talk about everything that has been going on and your still not wanting to divorce. You need help to process all this. Maybe learn how to have an open marriage??

One thing you do need to pay attention too is that your daughter is aware of her cheating. Children learn from there parents so much about how a relationship works , with love and respect hopefully, cheating is neither of those.

Would you want your daughter to accept that when she’s in a serious relationship or married that it’s okay if boyfriend or husband has another lover and it be okay since Dad accepted it ??

Just something to think about.