Well, you've said that you do not want Divorce, but it doesn't seem like staying in this Marriage is benefiting you that much. I COMPLETELY agree with what ALL the other wise and wonderful posters have already WISELY and WONDERFULLY SAID BETTER THAN I POSSIBLY EVER COULD IN MY WHOLE AND ENTIRE LIFE! Please do consider seeing a Therapist. At the very least, that will help you clarify things in your mind! After that, it will be your decision whether you want to Divorce from Her or not. I think it's important to consider ALL aspects and opinions in this, including your Children's well-beings. Consider your decisiona dn see how it goes from there! I also believe it is important to talk to your Wife about ALL of this before making a definitive decision, although it seems like she's already made a decision in her Mind. You do deserve to be respected! So please, do stand up for yourself and your own needs! You deserve to be happy! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need to and want to! I am SURE plenty of others will be REALLY GLAD AND REALLY HAPPY to help you as well! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Bobspace, your Family, your Friends, your Wife, your Children, your Relatives, your Therapists, your Pdocs, your Doctors, your Nurses and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking no matter what happens, ok?