If both want to solve the problem then a compromise can be had. Sometimes the other person doesn’t want to solve the problem— their goal is to push you away. Recognizing the difference can spare you pain from no good results no matter what you do.

I’ve recently had a conflict that I couldn’t solve in a good way because the other party was completely unbending. So that told my common sense to just back off.

I still love them (it’s my child!). So now I am gently trying to keep contact and remind them I am here when they are ready to speak again. It’s he who refuses to speak to me now even though he was the instigator. People do this. They get mad at you when they are wrong and you call them on it IME!