''normalisation''

That is a big part of the problem...
IRL they do not accept AS IS...

When CBT doesn't offer significant change, we are blamed for not trying hard enough...
My feeling system is faulty...
It does not respond due to negative recordings of the past..
Triggered into action before I have a thought or act out a behaviour....

So CBT can help in a limited way but...
And some situations are just terrible to live through...
Being positive while being abused won't help.
It is not always possible to escape that abuse...

Sending hugs to all who need them