Glad you started this thread. Some very wise words above. I think you are extremely smart not to let your boss in on your diagnosis. While the ADA is great on paper, in practice, employers commonly, I believe, discriminate against us in more subtle and off-the-books ways, a suggested above. They make it uncomfortable, without being flagrantly, openly discriminatory. It is a very unpleasant work environment and one I also have dealt with. In my case, I went to my state rep (I was employed by a large university hospital that was state-affiliated). Told the rep, who knew my history, what was going on. Told her I believed I was being discriminated against. She said that sounded likely. So, the question then was--sue, or don't sue? My #1, over-arching priority then was my mental health. So, I did not file a claim, even though I probably could have won in liberal Multnomah County with its pro-plaintiff juries. I thought the better move for my health was to quit and open my own shop. Which I did. Looking back, pretty sure I did the right thing.

I guess what I am thinking of for you is some kind of backup plan. Maybe look around for another job and see what that could look like. Maybe even interview for one. Send out a few feelers. See what the scuttlebutt is. But at least get a really good feel for what you would need to do if you either are fired or just don't want to work in an environment with that toxicity. The other thing is documentation. Document everything. Every conversation, every memo you receive, all your emails and texts and voicemails. Just in case. Having all that in your back pocket could be worth a whole lot some day.

That's all I got. Good luck to you. Sending you positive work vibes.