I'm glad you've found a new therapist Razz. I hope it's working for you.

"Compatability" is not the only thing that makes a good relationship. And even better, it's something that can be built up. You can build it through new hobbies, deep conversations, or regular "hanging out," not a date, but just being friends with each other.

My husband proposed over AIM. (Seriously.) I asked him why I should marry him when we disagree about almost everything, and he said, "Because I love you, and I'll take care of you, and I'll treat you well. And I'm not going to stop asking till you say yes." It's been hard, since we have very different backgrounds and views and even moral standards, but we don't love each other any less, and we don't try to hurt each other. Our "compatibility" has grown considerably as we learn and change together, without either of us sacrificing what we hold as important.

That doesn't mean neither of us ever wondered if we made a mistake, but we both want it work, and that makes a huge difference.

Perhaps the question to ask is not, "Are we compatible?" but rather "Do we both want this to work?"