I must agree with ALL the other wise andf wonderful posters about ALL of this! He definitely seems like an abusive man. Please get out of there as soon as you can. You can try to offer Couple Counselling to him, but from what you wrote, it seems like he isn't really willing to acknowledge his flaws and faults in your relationship. Still, you can try to propose that to him as a last option. If he refuses, leave. I am so sorry things are being so hard! I hope you'll find happiness and someone else who will treat you with the LOVE and RESPECT that you NEED and DESERVE! Please be kind to yourself and take the BEST decisions for yourself, ok? Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Sobreezy, your Family, your Friends, your Children and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking no matter what happens, ok?