Hello @whimsicalman. How are you going?

I can identify to your situation somewhat.

For me, after getting tired of my own behavior, I decided to check myself and ask, "Would I talk to a stranger like that? Or a friend?" - and the answer was 'No, I wouldn't. No, I don't'. So, I began to to view my parents - this was twenty years ago - simply as what they are: other people. Other people who deserved respect as well, in spite of anything. It did help me to grow in that area. Trying to treat people as equal. Checking my emotions.