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Lilly2 · Nov 06, 2019, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I guess I was thinking of when treatment providers try to trigger anger. This has definitely happened to me. I think they were trying to provoke change. But it didn't help

As I was given the wrong ''dx'' I suppose the wrong treatment wasn't a surprise

@Fuzzybear (((safe hugs)))

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

I, too, felt outraged at the years and money wasted on misdiagnoses and mistreatments. It hurts, and healing from that hurt is challenged when our pain gets undermined or dismissed altogether.

I hear your pain. I'm sorry what happened to you.

The actions I chose when feeling outraged from this were:
1. File complaints
2. Communicate my laments
3. Find support
4. Educate myself
5. Find alternative treatments
6. Self-care
7. Spread awareness
8. Advocate
9. Take notes
10. Do research
11. Find and list resources
12. Take time to grieve
13. Ask for help
14. Remove myself from toxic situations
15. Reaffirm the boundaries I want to have for myself and with others
16. Reassess my goals
17. Learn to adjust to the effects that all this pain has caused me by finding a new purpose
18. Healing through salutogenesis
19. Healing through posttraumatic growth
20. Healing through meaning-making and finding a workable narrative in my life - facts, past feelings, current feelings, feelings that I want to eventually have, old thoughts, new thoughts, growth charts, and more!

These are the steps that I take when I feel outraged, defeated, overwhelmed, helpless, misunderstood, stepped on, taken advantage of, hurt, harmed, abused, traumatized, etc.

I hope you are doing okay. I know you've been processing a lot of this stuff. It's okay to take a break from processing so that you can enjoy the fun stuff, too. The processing stuff can be "contained" until the next time we are ready to take it off the shelf and work on more processing. That's called "pacing and containing," which has helped me stay grounded and focused only on what I need to focus on in the moment. I can revisit the past anytime, and I can work toward my future at a pace that I feel is most comfortable and healthy for me. I can live and enjoy the present, and be in charge of my own life, no matter what others tell me. --These are the words I tell myself, and you can tell yourself good, positive words, too. You're doing so well with posting all these great threads here. I love your threads! I just hope you are doing some self-care for you, too.

You deserve happiness and all the good things in life. We all do.

I'm just glad that you take time to process these things with us on PC. It reminds me of some unresolved pain that I have, too. It's important that we be safe while processing these painful things, too. Self-care really helps.

(((safe hugs)))