|
Nov 06, 2019, 11:37 PM
|
|
|
|
Member Since: Oct 2019
Location: You'll never know
Posts: 940
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by BethRags
Once upon a time the holidays were so busy it was a frenzy. When all the elders died off and the kids grew up and went their ways it all dwindled down to almost nothing. Money is a huge problem for me...my kids are in their 30's, career oriented, and will likely travel over the holidays.So it's major FOMO for me.
I used to really enjoy working on the holidays, much more so than any gatherings. But I retired from that job (I was a waitress).
So there's T-giving, Hanukah, Christmas, my birthday, and New Year's Eve. My husband and I will go to a diner for dinner on Christmas; I'm looking forward to that; it's fun. And I'll take myself to breakfast for my birthday.
I thank the universe for my precious pets to spend the holidays with. And I'll definitely be hanging out here.
Tips? Hmm...I'll be thinking on that one...
|
@BethRags
I think your tips are embedded within your response. Thank you!
I used to love going to diners on the holidays, that is, when I had friends to hang out with. As I aged, I realized how different life became during every decade of my life, from 20's to 30's to now, in m 40's.
You bring up an excellent point about ageing, which includes changes in holidays. Some families do the traditional "get together" thing, whereas other families are dispersed. I can understand how your own children are exploring the world and their careers, and how the holidays seem different because of that. I tend to have FOMO when I think back on my younger years and how much I miss it.
It's great that you have a husband to share this with, and the wonderful Hanukkah celebration. One of my mentors and my half-brother are Jewish, and they go all out for the Jewish holidays! I am learning more about the Jewish tradition through hearing stories from my family and my mentor (who published a book with a Jewish theme). I don't know much yet, but I will eventually.
I typically spend my birthdays alone. I'll take myself out or purchase a movie online to watch. I give myself a treat. My mother sends me a card and a gift every holiday and every birthday, which is sweet. My other family members see me as the black sheep of the family because I'm "disabled," and in their eyes that means "I'm unsuccessful." They were almost happy for me when I graduated with my bachelor's, but not enough to sustain any praise because I haven't been able to return to work full-time or have a real professional title. I'm not sure what I'll do when it's my mom's time, which I hope won't be for a while. She's nearing her mid-80s, so I'm hoping she'll live to 100. It's possible, but I have to be realistic, too. It feels like she's the only family I have left.
I don't know my half-brother too well, as we didn't grow up together. He's about your age. One of our nephews just enlisted in the Army, so he'll be serving his country and away for the holidays. My half-brother is an Army vet himself, and currrently disabled. We do get along, but I prefer to be alone. He has a sweet family.
Anyway, thank you for the tip on going out to a diner (even though you didn't see that as a tip). It's fun to see who else decided to not cook or mingle like everyone else.
(((safe hugs))) 
|