Thank you all for your feedback and replies. They all give me a lot to think about. I have thought through my “traumas” and my T is actually completely unlike anyone who has harmed me in the past. In just about every way imaginable That is part of the reason I selected him as a T.

But you all have given me a lot of other things to consider, so I guess I will do some thinking before I decide to return or not.

Many thanks!