woah - breathe. you know all that't not true. things happen in life. we are but one person in their lives. this has probably been planned a long time.

my new t's dad died the second week i was there, so she missed that week.

my new t (7 months) just had word about a grandbaby being born, so she's going there soon for a week.

I think anger and transference are separate. try to breathe through the anger and understand that there are larger forces at work.