I think it’s important to find the right match. Not everyone wants or needs same (or any) amounts of affection or validation or otherwise emotional connection with romantic partner .

We are all on a spectrum of various degrees of emotional need.

It’s important to find someone we can compromise and find balance with. I personally am not particularly warm and fuzzy person, not saying I don’t need or don’t give affection, I do, but just not at the same degree that some other people.

My offer of support is more of a practical take care of business no nonsense approach than cuddling and rainbows and unicorns. For example, if someone keeps losing their jobs my approach is to figure out what they are doing wrong (because they obviously are doing something wrong) and fix it ASAP. Some people want cuddling oh poor you the world is against you. Sorry I won’t provide this kind of support. My support is to help find practical solution and say it how it is. I guess it won’t work for everyone. But that’s how it is

Constant expression of affection is irritating. I would not be able to sustain it. I don’t believe everyone needs such degree of affection.

I think it’s important to openly discuss what people need and to what degree and what could be compromised and what alternatives are possible