My ex bf..who is now just a really close friend...knew something big must have been behind my depression and behind my reactions to things...and he ended up asking me what happened to me...and i told him when we had a dinner at home together and it was really nice..and we were just sitting on the couch together...it was really good..and he has never held anything against anyone or gone on his own little mission to confront them because he knows that won't help and is not what i want..he is really good about it...and he has suffered depression as well...so he understands a bit....and he is so good about the abuse...he lets me talk whenever i want...i told him two years ago...and even now he doesn't think i should have gotten over it or anything like some friends have been like...so he's a great guy..in some ways i wish i was still with him...anyway..i think if you guys are really close and he really is there to support you..when you feel comfortable to tell him...because you're not only telling your story of abuse you're telling so much more...who you are, how you think, react, live, love and just are... :-) good luch..xoxo