I don’t think all people necessarily get all anxious depressed or clingy when they don’t have emotional connection with people around them.. Many just don’t stuck around people who provide zero emotional validation or find other ways to fulfill themselves. I think your views of other people are a bit oversimplified. For example if I had a romantic partner who provided zero affection, I’d simply not stick around him. Why would i? Clingy with people who are not into me? No thanks. Life is too short. Many people operate this way.

What I find rather curious is that why you, a person who has no interest in affection or emotional connection neither giving nor receiving, seek romantic relationship? I’d say it defeats the purpose of romantic relationship. Even those of us who don’t need whole ton of affection, need to give and receive some. If you need none of that, wouldn’t it better to just enjoy activity partners and maybe casual sex?

Why are you seeking something you don’t want and don’t need? Seems a waste of energy. There are ton of things I don’t want and don’t need. I’d not seek it. What for? Why not just be authentic? Do you want it because you observe others having it? But they naturally desire to give and receive that. It’s euther there or it’s not. Are you trying to be someone you aren’t?