do you personally want to look for friends, despite some differences? i think everyone has something in common, no matter how little it is. and vice versa.
and i think there's nothing wrong with being 'different', it's just how we project it to others.

do we want to share how we view things, as well as listen to how others think of certain things? or do we just want to focus on how we feel/think?

i get how you feel, to a certain extent i guess. i know i have a different taste of music, art, tv shows/movies, etc, than my friends. and i also have things i share in common with them. but most of them are open to talk about both, as i also listen to what they're interested in, even if i dont feel the same way. i think it's just interesting to hear what people think but it goes back to how the other person is

maybe you haven't find the right person to talk to, or maybe you're unconsciously aren't really open to hear what people say. and i know it can be bothersome to listen to things that you're not interested in, that's why it really depends to who we talk to. i believe we can try to get along with most people, but we cant befriend every single one of them. we just have to find who we're compatible with i guess.

and to answer your question, i would change myself, to a certain extent. i have changed myself, but for the better. not necessarily becoming a whole new person though of course. i was quite a temperamental person, i say what i want to say and not really considering about what others might feel. im sure i hurt a lot of people from the way i acted and talked. but as i grow i realize it is unfair to the people around me, so i try to be more considerate. i try to act the way i want people to treat me.

i hope i make myself clear, sorry if this isn't the answer you're looking for