I'm so sorry to hear that. I think any kind of loss can hit really hard because it taps into to a lot of pain about other losses if that makes sense.

Has your t said a definite no to out of session contact? I'm assuming from your posts he didn't but if his policy is firm then unfortunately it's best not to and maybe try and seek out other forms of support in the meantime, one of which could be posting here or maybe phone a helpline?

If your T policy is more hazy could you perhaps send him a quick email just telling him you don't expect a response but you wanted to him to know you've had some bad news.

Every therapist is different in regard to contact and it's really hard to give advice not knowing how your t will respond to it but I would hope you could at least let him know briefly that you've had some bad news.