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Old Apr 03, 2008, 09:00 AM
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I had a similar experience this week. Unfortunately after 9 month I was still somewhat hooked on trying to present evidence that what I'm feeling is wrong, that I am a freak, that I have no interpersonal skills, poor mother, bad wife, blah, blah, blah... My therapist just sat back and efficiently challenged each attack I made on myself. I realized when I left that I have no more arguments to make against myself.. the analytical me must accept the null hypothesis.

I think at least for the moment, I believe that what I am feeling is not wrong. The behaviors I am exhibiting are not abnormal they are consistent with what I am feeling. I know everyone has said time and time again, that emotions and feelings are not right or wrong--- they just are what they are. Some how I was just conditioned/brainwashed to think mine were alway wrong and that when I behaved in a way that matched them, I was bad, evil, socially unacceptable. I need to accept the way I'm feeling and stop trying to force myself to change it, or beat myself up with guilt about it.

I think if I can get myself to hold on to the concept that its OK for me to be the way I am, I'll be done with therapy.

Sunrise, glad that you also had a good session.
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